We’ve not shared our story publicly up to this point but now that the cat is out of the bag so to speak, I am going to share the process here, with names and numbers. I’ve journaled sporadically but have at least kept track of the important stuff. Some of this is pretty close to my heart and I ask that you, the reader, handle my feelings with care and gentleness. Everyone comes to adoption differently. This is our path.
We turned south and headed towards Bakersfield and, with a healthy amount of nervous energy, discussed the huge upcoming change.
Namely… A name.
I had a name that I loved but Alan wasn’t sure about it so I loaded up a baby name app on my iPhone and began to talk.
We discussed our stay in Colorado Springs. We had lots of experience with Couchsurfing and I wanted to see if it there might be someone open to our ‘open-ended-ness’, recognizing that we had no clue how long we’d be there.
As Alan wrapped up some work stuff, I sent out 10 requests:
Coming to Pick up a Package
My couch surf request veers a wee bit off the normal. Please bear with me.
My husband and I are driving out to Colorado Springs (from Santa Cruz, CA) to wait for and then pick up a rather precious package.
We got a call 4 days ago that this package is meant for us, so we’ve been scrambling and getting things together and prepared for this package. We found out today where this package was going to be delivered. And so we are en route.
While we wait for this package to be ready, my husband has to continue to work (online with Skype) and I have brought some projects to work on.
Once we’ve picked up this package – which may be requiring pick-up in the middle of the night – we must hang out in Colorado Springs for a little bit longer before we can head back.
Yes – you’ve probably guessed by now… We are adoptive parents who have gotten “the call” that we are matched with a birth mother who is due any day now.
So – we don’t know how long we will be waiting and we don’t know how long we must wait after but what we do know is that the baby was due on the 15th, so we are now looking at ANY day now. Then we will be hanging out in the hospital with the baby until he is released… and then… we’ll be staring at this package and wondering – what the heck!?!
Are you willing to take us on?
We’ve hosted many for both short term and longer term (1-2 weeks) as well as have been surfers ourselves. We are pretty self sufficient and love the people-connection that couch surfing brings. We are hoping to explore Colorado Springs a little bit but that likely depends on when we need to pick up ‘The Package’.
Please feel free to ask us anything and absolutely feel free to decline if this feels like way too much to take on (I totally understand that as that is what I’ve been thinking for the past 4 days!).
We expected to have mostly declines but…
What an exciting time for you! You are welcome to come and stay however long you like. If it is not to your liking/needs, no hard feelings.
Will you be involved in the birth?
Feel free to call me at XXX-XXX-XXXX.
I just had ample time to re-read (rather than peruse) your letter.
Oh my gosh, this is exciting! I have a portable crib still in storage I am willing to be the best support I can. It does not phase me at all. I have raised two girls.
My house is your house in whatever way needed. You may also be eligible for the Ronald McDonald house as well. Let me know when you get to town. I am happy to support in whatever way.
You, Alan and baby Package are welcome to stay here. Only my husband John will be here because I will be couchsurfing in the Bahamas but he is happy to host you.
Just to let you know, we are omnivores but often eat vegatarian though almost always ovo-lacto.
Directions are below. Please let us know what day and time you will arrive so John can make sure he is home.
Congratulations on the new member to your family.
We will delighted to host you at our home in Colorado Springs. Yes, we figured out the package contents within the first few sentences. There is one small problem in that we are now in San Bernardino, CA ourselves and do not expect to be back in Colorado until January 20, 2012. We are on an adventure trip which means we do not have a schedule so no dates are fixed. We are going into mexico today then into AZ then stop by Grand Canyon before we drive back to Colorado Springs. Our home and a guest bedroom with private bath is available for your use as long as you need it. In the home lowest level (basement) are my mother and sister who are full time residents. They have their own quarters so they will not be in the way. The guest room is on second floor. Our bedroom is on first floor. The house is very large and comfortable. What we need to work out is the details of how to get you in the home if you arrive before we do. Here is our telephone number while we are travelling. XXXdashXXXdashXXXX. Let it ring and ring and ring, and leave a voice message if we do not answer. Best regards, Mike and Rebecca
The next day I called Mike and Rebecca and we set up the stay. We were very excited to have found a place to stay.
But then we got this:
Absolutely yes. I had my beautiful son with a midwife, and we are from San Jose, originally, and I am a huge fan of adoption as well. SO EXCITED FOR YOU GUYS!!
So, the “yes” being said, I am in Portland finishing up my first short-term graduate school residency and don’t get back until Sunday the 22nd. My folks live in the Springs as well and have a huge lovely house, and also the cohousing community I live in has guest bedrooms I can sign up for, even if I am not there. So let’s be creative and find a way to make this work! I look forward to meeting you. What a wonderful way to start your 2012, mama
I loved the sound of her reply. She felt like a kindred spirit.
Thank you soooo much! It looks like we are covered for the next couple of days but if you don’t mind, we would love to head your direction afterwards. I am planning on breastfeeding and would feel much more comfortable in the presence of another mama. The couple that we are going to be staying with are lovely but much older and way beyond this stage in their lives.
We would love to take advantage of one of the guest rooms if that is possible – I think that would be quite awesome after the baby is able to leave the hospital. Would there be a cost associated with that? Is it attached or near to your place? Would there be the possibility of wifi or internet so that my husband can still be working? (ummm… part time (!!) but sadly he must attend some meetings [Skype] and get a few things done for work.)
Thank you again and so I look forward to meeting you!
Yes, I can see if the guest room is available in the common house, it is right 20 feet next to my house, across the walkway
I also have a pack n play you can use if you need it, if you are not cosleeping or if you need a break! I also nursed and am happy to cheer you on. That’s awesome that you will be doing that.
So, what day do you think you will arrive? and any idea on when you will head back to CA? Let me know dates and i will check on things -
and if the common house rooms are not available (i live at www.casaverde.us, to give you an idea of what cohousing is), the room I can offer you guys in my house is private and cozy and in the basement of my place. I am near downtown as well if you feel like venturing out.
I look forward to meeting you guys. The common house has wifi, and there is a coffee shop not 100 yards from my house, and there is stronger wifi there, if for any reason it gives you any trouble (which it shouldn’t!)
So… we knew we’d be taken care of once we got there.
We got up the next morning and hit the road again, hoping to make Albuquerque, New Mexico.
And continued to talk…
To be continued…
Our Adoption Journey – Part 21 – COMING SOON