Eamonn, Maisie and I have just returned from our “Three States, Two Babies and One Badass Mama: An Epic Adventure” trip. It really was epic.
From Arkansas we drove through Missouri to Kansas to a Kansas City ‘burb – Olathe. There I picked up a rental car with two car seats, which caused them no small amount of distress given that they DIDN’T HAVE TWO CARSEATS (they only had one)!!! They acted like I should get by with only one…
This required calling around to find another and while Laurel and Hardy were doing that they were wondering why they didn’t know that they needed two carseats (apparently this is totally unheard of – who needs TWO carseats?!?!). Laurel said to Hardy “Oh – look at those codes – that must be the carseats” and Hardy says, “Oh yeah, I saw those but I didn’t know what they meant”. (!!!) One was located, delivered to us and, after installation, the babes and I were finally off and running.
I sent a text saying that we were on our way and, checking my phone for directions periodically, soon found ourselves in front of Jason and Meghan’s house.
It suddenly occurred to me what an odd thing I was doing. I’ve solo travelled with two babies halfway across the US, to meet almost complete strangers whose son has the same bloodline as ours. And yet… it felt right. I knew that we had to do this. I knew that these boys needed to meet. I knew that this relationship depended on us… for now.
I parked on the driveway, unloaded the kiddos and, hiking them up on my hips, walked up the path to the front door.
Jason opened the door and invited us in. The little boy that we had come so far to meet, and one of his little sisters, was still napping. And so, while Eamonn got his bearings amongst all of the toys, Jason, Meghan and I began with small talk. Soon Meghan went upstairs to awaken the little ones.
My first glimpse of Joshua was through the stair railings as he hesitantly slid down the stairs with his blankie. He looks so much like Eamonn and yet… so different. It’s very obvious that they are brothers but, while I expected them to look more alike, they very distinctly have their own look.
They started playing immediately with the available toys.
We interrupted play for dinner and then back to playing they went.
I decided to keep Eamonn up for a while after dinner so that all of the kids could play. Much fun was had climbing all over a designated kid-friendly chair and Joshua’s daddy. Eamonn simply dove right in with the little ones without the shyness and hesitancy that he tends to have.
After all of the littles were in bed Jason, Meghan and myself shared what little information that we had about the boys’ birth parents and then transitioned into sharing our adoption journey’s. As Meghan was telling me their journey, I kind’ve chuckled – it honestly could have been me telling the story, with different names and states.
The next morning we headed off to a beautiful playground, with slides and swings, sand and water, trees and a bubbling brook. The kiddos played mostly in the water, altough Joshua was particularly fond of the sand. I tried to convince Eamonn to enjoy the water with the other kiddos but he was very hesitant. It took much cajoling.
We went back to the house to escape the heat and have some lunch. While we were getting food together for the kids, I heard the most lovely laughter. I looked over and saw Joshua and Eamonn playing and laughing. It wasn’t clear what they were laughing about but they seemed to find each other amazingly hilarious. This continued through lunch.
We managed to get a few posed photos of the boys on the couch after lunch but honestly…. it was a little bit like herding cats.
Off for naps everyone went and then the fun began again.
The next morning, it was decided that Joshua’s younger sisters would go and visit grandma and we would go out to a local petting zoo and lunch.
The 6 of us then headed over to some badass Kansas City barbeque. ‘Cause apparently thats what you do in Kansas. It was YUMMY!
Then back to the house to pack and head for the airport. The boys hugged each other good bye and left the two mamas watching, to remember everything for them, as they went on with their day. This is the beginning of a life-long relationship. They’ll be brothers and hopefully, friends. I only hope that we can continue to foster this relationship as the years pass and we get busier in our lives.
Thank you so much, Jason and Meghan, for inviting this crazy mama and my two babies into your home and for creating an amazing space for two special little boys to connect. They may not remember… but we will.